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Old 05-04-2017, 12:49 PM
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Hi Frank

For me, it's a big YES. And Frank I know your answer. But would like to hear from the other guys.

Really can be great time away from daily drama and a lot cheaper than an expensive dinner

Here she is battling with gator blues....
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Old 05-04-2017, 03:42 PM
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I do everything with my wife. I haven't fished with the guys in 50 years. but I never forget that all relationships are not the same. I have an old fishing buddy whose wife is the worst bitch imaginable. He fishes alone and one can easily see why.

Miguel, I have been doing this site for 19 years and I have never known anybody who came here who took better photos than you. I steal all your photo submissions for article support. I just submitted an article with one of your Canal photos. And I am saving this one of your wife as well. You a peach! Merci
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Old 05-04-2017, 05:52 PM
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That photo (and of course Frank's) are great.

My wife doesn't fish, but she does enjoy coming out on the beach on mild evenings with me, sometimes even more.

One year, I caught the herring run right and stopped by a local outflow, snagged up some fresh on the way home from work, called my wife and said 'let's go'. She was ready when home, and we hit the jetty where the stripers were inhaling these chunks like candy. Not huge but they were there. She took this photo with my cheapo phone (so, Frank, I know youse'll never use it ) , but it's a fond memory for me:
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Old 05-04-2017, 09:32 PM
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Have taken the Big Boss when she was The Girlfriend on my boat Striper fishing trolling Rebels w/ sandworm & Bucktail w/ long pork rind on the L.I. Sound , Small mouth fishing Lake George NY & Walleye fishing on the 1000 Islands NY . But like RobS its now occasionally she will tag along the Caribbean beach warmer weather days while I fly fish for Snook . She did witness last August when I beached 40lb Tarpon w/ spin rod , 20lb braid MirrOlure ,C-Eye MR suspending twitch bait along w/ about 150 people w/ cars stoped along the road while the Silver King made acrobatic jumps out of the water . She did take some nice pics for me . The answer is no she rather go to the Casino or a Yankee game in the Bronx , that's fine with me cause she is the Best .
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Old 05-04-2017, 10:58 PM
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I should point out that my wife has fished with me on two occasions, bless her heart.

On an anniversary trip, we both took a fly fishing course run out of the old Adirondack Sport Shop which included onstream instruction where we both were laughed at by, what I found out were, very tough browns, though she hooked a couple. I kept going after a bruiser in a good spot.

Secondly, another anniversary trip to AK, we took a salmon charter where she caught a pink (we only caught pinks on that trip, kings were being finicky that day... of course they supposedly "hit them good" the day before )... we kept and cooked hers and it was a w e s o m e... don't let anyone downplay the other salmon, especially when fresh.

But other than those trips, she has never fished.
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When we first met, yes.

After 12 years of wedded bliss, no.
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Thank you, Frank.

When I first met my wife (many years ago) she was 14 and she came to my house with my little sister to do girl stuff.

At the time, I had a fish tank full of live eels in my room, somehow I tipped over the tank and had a bunch of live eels all over the floor. She did not hesitate to help pick up those slimy, fast moving creatures... I knew she was special right then and there.
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There is no way I can respond to all these cogent posts. A lot of things in our culture suffer from a kind of genderization where there are some things only men do and other things only women do. So women often are reluctant to get involved because an activity is a "man thing". With some women fishing is considered out-of-bounds and hunting is even worse.

Never forget that there can be personality issues where a woman simply cannot relate to killing a fish or shooting an animal. In my wife's case she seems inspired by reward. For instance, she used to go crazy over the idea of selling a fish and putting the money in her pocket. Now that we no longer can sell fish, her interest has turned to hunting so she can bring home the "free meat". She will not hunt crows and has refused to shoot coyotes. No meat. It is therefore incumbent upon us to try to understand the other person and the social which mold their interestsinfluenchttp://www.stripersurf.com/forums/attachment.php?attachmentid=15760&stc=1&d=1494001683es .
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My wife definitely has a combination of prejudices (a) fishing being a man thing and (b) fishing should produce meat. She does not understand catch and release, because it seems a waste of time to her

If I hunted, it would be the same thing, except she never grew up around game (and myself only limited exposure) and she has an aversion to guns being in the house... so that ruled out hunting for me.

She has some physical limitations without which I could have persuaded her to join me more often. So Frank, your blessed beyond most (and I know you realize this)
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bowling w/ the wives on Wed.. nite is a lot of fun but not on Friday its a man thing ! You would be surprised how many gals have great form , watching the ball down the lane never grows old . Competition is fierce especially when playing for the House Trophy
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Some aspects of fishing and hunting the woman has to be eased into. For instance gutting a deer is a pukey, very demanding thing that all hunters have to do. Our son in law used to vomit every time he did it, still does. My wife, Joyce, was always content to let me or our son do the gutting. Then one of the women at the gun club was bragging that gutting was a great warming of the hands in the woods. Well, Joyce felt like a second rate hunter because she never had to gut and it was bothering her. I encouraged her to try it but reminded her that she really did not have to. Next deer she takes out her knife while I told her she could start at the deer's sternum or its butt, either way. She did not get all the stuff; there was some lung still in the cavity, but she did okay and did not puke. (Who wants to hunt with a pukey wife?)
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Old 05-08-2017, 04:28 PM
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The tackle companies see huge growth potential in getting women involved in both hunting and fishing. Imagine every wife joining her husband in the field. It would create a landfall of equipment sales for both fishing and hunting. Instead we suffer the genderization of sport where men do this and women do that. It would also do a lot for relationships if fishing, and hunting, were done together with couples.
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^^ not sure if I agree on the sales pitch but for my investment would be a nail salon. Some how I think the Asian American business has something going on here in the US of A with a store on almost every corner .
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I actually can't think of anything that I don't enjoy more if my bride is with me. She fishes a bit but will hang on the beach for hours while I waste bait.
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I actually can't think of anything that I don't enjoy more if my bride is with me...
And that is the recipe for a long marriage!

Too often, when I was younger, I'd run into guys who looked for excuses
to not be with their wives, most ( though not all ) of those did not last long!
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